记得当年读书时，拿的是父母给的零用钱， 记得小二时妈妈会递给我一张十元，忘了是一星期或多久给一次。。。然后渐渐地，零用钱“涨价”到$20。中学时代是一星期$50,包括车资与午餐和文具、书籍开销等。理工学院时期，父亲会一次过存$1,000 入我的户口，每年的一月和七月就会这么作。
每回拿钱时，都会觉得非常“委屈”。因为每次都会有被“威胁”的感觉，印象是要拿他们的钱就得要听他们的话。而且每次花钱就会想到妈妈常提醒的话“赚钱不易，不要乱花钱！”我心里总是渴望自己能够快些出来工作赚钱，这样就无需向父母拿钱了。。。
还记得当年的我充满抱负。希望自己将来在事业上要有所成就，赚大钱，可以买公寓给妈妈，给妈妈很多零用钱，请嬷嬷去馆子吃饭，买车代步，载送嬷嬷和妈妈去兜风,买很多玩具给堂弟妹们。。。我也想把自己打扮得漂漂亮亮，不要结婚，不要被捆锁，享受自由的生活。。。
十五岁那年，通过亲戚的介绍，我到乌节路的一件饮食店作侍应生。每天都要开工，每天作十个钟头，一个月大概赚取$600。所以算起来，整个年底假期，我一共赚了$900! 哇，当时候的我觉得这数目是大的罗！
$900，扣除了自己的交通费用后，我请了嬷嬷和姑妈到肥仔荣海鲜馆子吃饭，买了玩具给我的堂弟妹玩，为我的一位自小被欺压虐待，没穿过新衣服的表哥梳妆一番。我带他去剪头发、买新衣裤和腰带，还有新皮鞋。他当时好开心喔！见到他开心，我也感到满足。:) 当然，我也把部分钱花在自己身上，其余的存入银行。
理工学院毕业后，我终于可以花自己赚的钱了。可惜，当时嬷嬷已经离开了。。这是我的遗憾！ :(
出来的第一份工作是Personnel consultant. 原本是到该agency找工作，没想到却被他们recruit加入他们。在这间公司作了大概3个月，觉得自己还不够“老练”，与顾客和求职者沟通时没有技巧和“熟度”，所以很多时候都被他们呼来唤去，象傀儡般地被操控。。所以便决定离开。
第二份工作是6个月的合约项目。当年Disney 在新加坡有维持3个月的大型演出兼佳年华会 Disneyfest SIngapore。我在里头被雇为Admin assistant to Director。衔头不错，因为有Director撑腰，大家都要给面子。但是行政工作却是呆板。老板是个大好人，对我没什么要求。大多数时候是去机场接老外（从美国、澳州等国家来的）、安排他们的住宿与交通，帮助他们申请工作证等。。还有一些琐碎的行政工作。。。
记得6个月约满后，老板有邀请我与团队一起到台湾去（他们演出的下一站）。但是我告诉他，若我还是要作同样的行政东西，那我不去了。。。哈，我在想，我若当年跟去了，结果会如何呢？可能会正式进入Disney公司 （我假期打工期间也在Disney工作过罗），或可能嫁给其中一个老外。。。（我有个跟去的同事就是这样）
之后，我进入金融公司当“讨债鬼” (credit executive)。当中遇见几个好同事，现今仍联络。只是讨债生活叫我“看透红尘”！哈哈哈。。。厌倦了commercial的一切，想要转去做些与教会有关联的事务。
当时，教会属下的学生中心正需要老师。老实说，当时的我很讨厌小孩，因此我从没有想过要进入这个行业。但是，由于我目的是要做教会的事务，所以便答应了。一做就是4 年的时间！在当中，我学到好多好多。。。这份工作是给我最大满足感的工作！ :) 之后由于一些变化，我转到教会做行政人员。
在进入教会学生中心工作之前，我的开销很大。每周都会至少看一部电影，吃一顿大餐。每两到三个月就会上理发院给头发“进补”（难怪某某先生说我的头发迷人！哈！现在$有限，整个头好象“夏枯草”一样！！若他真的当年是因我的头发着迷，他现在一定很后悔！）
当年的理想、志愿，与现在的一切远远不及！我现在还是需要看人的脸色花钱！！！ 唉！！！！大大的唉哉呀！！！！一天工作待命24小时，即使是想出外偷闲也只能去不超过3个钟头，除非我把“任务”带在身边，我才可能去和“猪朋狗友”鬼混鬼混！头发嘛，剪短了，因天气和忙碌关系。同时也好看过一头长长的“夏枯草”。最多每一、两个月理一次头发，每次$12。
现在不要说给父母什么回馈，父母还要“倒贴”钱为我买食物做月子（我们要还但他们不肯收），我难得回娘家时，父亲还会塞钱给我搭德士回家。前阵子，父亲还说要订羊奶给勇齐喝，我实在不敢接受。。。
我觉得自己的的理想是多么的风光荣耀，但现实中，我最终走的路却是如此“卑微”的。昨天晚上我回想为什么会这样，是什么使得自己放下了起初的目标？若今天我把孩子们“丢”进托儿中心，自己出去工作赚钱，有了自己的钱，就可以让随己意让孩子们学钢琴、参加图工班，买玩具给孩子，带他们去玩、去吃，孩子们和丈夫会不会更开心呢？还是他们会宁可妈妈在家里陪伴他们呢？
我想，人活着不是为了吃喝玩乐。我在意我的孩子将来的救恩。我曾说过我的孩子是我的门徒，我要亲自带领他们，教导他们人生的一切。我想这就是我选择这道路的原因吧！我选择今天花钱时看人的脸色，因为我不愿在当我们老时，我们需要看孩子们的脸色。不禁让我联想，现今这么多人指责孩子们把老父母送进养老院，但为什么人们却不觉得父母将孩子们放在托儿中心有问题呢？其实，它们的运作大概相似，让外人看管自己的至亲，不是吗？
我的骄傲！
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Pets
hasnt blogged for almost a month... kekeke... paiseh! sorry to my faithful readers... was quite busy then... those who added me in their facebook would know that my son Yongqi was not well for a week. he had run high fever and my hubby and i (me esp) were super stressed! But thank God, he is well and healthy now... and his nonsense proves that he has regained all his “元气”! kekeke...
other than that, i have now two more babies to take care. my dad in law bought my yongen two lil hamsters... and attend to them become part of my motherhood task, of cuz, not forgetting to remind yongen they are her pets thus she needs to participate in all cleaning and maintanence job.
i was rather reluctant, in fact full of complain, when my father in law (FIL) brought home the two hamsters. i was thinking i am already busy enough with my three children and now i have two more to take care.. and i think there are more reasons hiding in me which i didnt know till now...
i was ( or maybe 'am') animals lover. i remember when i was young, i would go around confronting those who were cruel towards their pets or stray animals. when i was about seven or eight yrs old, i saw a bigger than me boy tugging a dog with a straw string tied to its neck. the poor fellow was growning in pain.. but the boy found it amusing with its cries... i was very pissed then... i ran to that boy, held up the doggy, pull and break the string, turned and walked away with the pup in my arm. the boy was shocked! he chased after me and shouted at me, wanted me to return his dog... after much confrontation, i wanted him to promise not to hurt the dog anymore, then handed him the dog... that boy at that moment was already in tears... he must be thinking, "who is this crazy girl...."
there was another time, there was an injured birdie at my school canteen.. the boys were surrounding it and saying what they would want to do with it... obviously what they said sounded unfriendly to me... thus i confronted them, picked up the birdie and walked away... i remember i handed the birdie to a pet shop keeper and requested him to take good care of it, as i had experienced birdie died under my care within one day... (kekeke)
also, whenever i saw cats or kittens near the road, i would always make sure i carried them to somewhere safe, at least not a place near busy traffic... and i have learnt not to play with cats at the bus stop cuz i thought it would be dangerous if they were to follow me when i board the bus...
i really loved animals! when i was young, i always browse books about animals. But i stopped doing so after one of my uncle told me i should read more enid blyton storybook instead of all these animal books... however, i hardly complete few story books then.. i dun really like to read friction stuff...
once my mum asked me what i wanna be when i grow up. i told her i wanna be a vet. i think to her, a vet is rather borliao thing (well, who knows now a vet earns more than a GP?!?!) thus to discourage me, she said in future the vet's job was to examine the cow and pig etc to see if they are well enough to be slaughtered... wow, she really hit the nail, upon hearing that, i gave up the idea to be a vet. cuz the task she described is the last thing i ever want to do in my entire life!!!
i also liked to keep animals when i was young. i had kept two dogs ( one of it was a dashund, which after nine months with me, eloped with a bitch and that made me cried for almost a year; the other one was a pug bitch, which was i think not well when given to us cuz it was very smelly and my mum couldnt stand it thus we sent it away within a month)...
then i had rabbit. my mum bought it for me after my constant pleading!!! (guess thats what my en did for her pet rabbit and hamsters.. Oh, she has a pet rabbit too at grandma's place) i loved it very much! we kept it in a fish tank... and one morning it died and i remembered i mourned like what till my mum couldnt tahan, she buried the body with me and even burnt joss stick and the 'kim jua' for it... kekeke... she wanted to console me la...
oh before that i oso had hamsters, white mice... oh ya, about 100 white mice! kekeke... my cousin and i kept them in a cupboard box at my granny place (my granny was very scared of mice) and i remembered once when we were watching tv at very late night, we saw one mouse, two, then three, running one by one across the room... and that night we ended up catching and hunting for each and everyone of them, and headcount to ensure we missed not a single of them! kekeke... it was fun!
so many animals i had encountered, i had loved and was hurt due to their death and loss... from then, my mum told me not to keep any cuz she didnt want to see me got hurt when i lost them... and myself also decided too not to keep any animals then and i have learnt to retrieve my love for animals too... so that i wont be hurt.
en's first pair of pets were a pair of terrapins that i bought for her. i thought they were supposed to be the toughest of all animals.. yet they still died! :( i was quite sad when the first one left... then i started to hardened my heart.. when the second one left, i felt almost nothing.
to me fish and terrapins are different from furry warm blooded animals. the later ones tend to engage me more... thus i did not want to keep any warm blooded animals until my FIL bought in the two hamsters.
at first, i tried to hold back my feeling twds these two fellows. until they started to fight and i realised the female has bitten the male one quite badly and everynight the squeaking for help made me frustrated... i suggested my hubby to seperate them but he said no need as he in fact dislike them wanted them to 'go' quickly. but i juz cant bear to see that.. and thank God, my cousin gave me another cage and i seperated the two immediately... at that time the male one was so badly hurt that it had bled le... when i seperated it, the male one was like looking at me and saying 'thank you!' and then it went to a corner and sleep soundly.... in my heart i was thinking, it had been few nights that it hadnt sleep so peacefully le...
now i enjoy sitting by the cage, look at them their behaviours and feed them their favourite carrot. and other then shopping for my children, i also like to shop for toys and snack and stuff for the hamsters!!! i am so crazy into it now.... (haha... think my hubby foresee that thus he so scare to keep them! kekeke...)
well, having these two lil things is quite fun actually. and by changing the cage and playing with them, my bonding with yongen actually grows stronger... looking at her, i see myself when i was young. juz hope that she is able to cope withthe loss better than i do when the day comes...
other than that, i have now two more babies to take care. my dad in law bought my yongen two lil hamsters... and attend to them become part of my motherhood task, of cuz, not forgetting to remind yongen they are her pets thus she needs to participate in all cleaning and maintanence job.
i was rather reluctant, in fact full of complain, when my father in law (FIL) brought home the two hamsters. i was thinking i am already busy enough with my three children and now i have two more to take care.. and i think there are more reasons hiding in me which i didnt know till now...
i was ( or maybe 'am') animals lover. i remember when i was young, i would go around confronting those who were cruel towards their pets or stray animals. when i was about seven or eight yrs old, i saw a bigger than me boy tugging a dog with a straw string tied to its neck. the poor fellow was growning in pain.. but the boy found it amusing with its cries... i was very pissed then... i ran to that boy, held up the doggy, pull and break the string, turned and walked away with the pup in my arm. the boy was shocked! he chased after me and shouted at me, wanted me to return his dog... after much confrontation, i wanted him to promise not to hurt the dog anymore, then handed him the dog... that boy at that moment was already in tears... he must be thinking, "who is this crazy girl...."
there was another time, there was an injured birdie at my school canteen.. the boys were surrounding it and saying what they would want to do with it... obviously what they said sounded unfriendly to me... thus i confronted them, picked up the birdie and walked away... i remember i handed the birdie to a pet shop keeper and requested him to take good care of it, as i had experienced birdie died under my care within one day... (kekeke)
also, whenever i saw cats or kittens near the road, i would always make sure i carried them to somewhere safe, at least not a place near busy traffic... and i have learnt not to play with cats at the bus stop cuz i thought it would be dangerous if they were to follow me when i board the bus...
i really loved animals! when i was young, i always browse books about animals. But i stopped doing so after one of my uncle told me i should read more enid blyton storybook instead of all these animal books... however, i hardly complete few story books then.. i dun really like to read friction stuff...
once my mum asked me what i wanna be when i grow up. i told her i wanna be a vet. i think to her, a vet is rather borliao thing (well, who knows now a vet earns more than a GP?!?!) thus to discourage me, she said in future the vet's job was to examine the cow and pig etc to see if they are well enough to be slaughtered... wow, she really hit the nail, upon hearing that, i gave up the idea to be a vet. cuz the task she described is the last thing i ever want to do in my entire life!!!
i also liked to keep animals when i was young. i had kept two dogs ( one of it was a dashund, which after nine months with me, eloped with a bitch and that made me cried for almost a year; the other one was a pug bitch, which was i think not well when given to us cuz it was very smelly and my mum couldnt stand it thus we sent it away within a month)...
then i had rabbit. my mum bought it for me after my constant pleading!!! (guess thats what my en did for her pet rabbit and hamsters.. Oh, she has a pet rabbit too at grandma's place) i loved it very much! we kept it in a fish tank... and one morning it died and i remembered i mourned like what till my mum couldnt tahan, she buried the body with me and even burnt joss stick and the 'kim jua' for it... kekeke... she wanted to console me la...
oh before that i oso had hamsters, white mice... oh ya, about 100 white mice! kekeke... my cousin and i kept them in a cupboard box at my granny place (my granny was very scared of mice) and i remembered once when we were watching tv at very late night, we saw one mouse, two, then three, running one by one across the room... and that night we ended up catching and hunting for each and everyone of them, and headcount to ensure we missed not a single of them! kekeke... it was fun!
so many animals i had encountered, i had loved and was hurt due to their death and loss... from then, my mum told me not to keep any cuz she didnt want to see me got hurt when i lost them... and myself also decided too not to keep any animals then and i have learnt to retrieve my love for animals too... so that i wont be hurt.
en's first pair of pets were a pair of terrapins that i bought for her. i thought they were supposed to be the toughest of all animals.. yet they still died! :( i was quite sad when the first one left... then i started to hardened my heart.. when the second one left, i felt almost nothing.
to me fish and terrapins are different from furry warm blooded animals. the later ones tend to engage me more... thus i did not want to keep any warm blooded animals until my FIL bought in the two hamsters.
at first, i tried to hold back my feeling twds these two fellows. until they started to fight and i realised the female has bitten the male one quite badly and everynight the squeaking for help made me frustrated... i suggested my hubby to seperate them but he said no need as he in fact dislike them wanted them to 'go' quickly. but i juz cant bear to see that.. and thank God, my cousin gave me another cage and i seperated the two immediately... at that time the male one was so badly hurt that it had bled le... when i seperated it, the male one was like looking at me and saying 'thank you!' and then it went to a corner and sleep soundly.... in my heart i was thinking, it had been few nights that it hadnt sleep so peacefully le...
now i enjoy sitting by the cage, look at them their behaviours and feed them their favourite carrot. and other then shopping for my children, i also like to shop for toys and snack and stuff for the hamsters!!! i am so crazy into it now.... (haha... think my hubby foresee that thus he so scare to keep them! kekeke...)
well, having these two lil things is quite fun actually. and by changing the cage and playing with them, my bonding with yongen actually grows stronger... looking at her, i see myself when i was young. juz hope that she is able to cope withthe loss better than i do when the day comes...
Thursday, July 8, 2010
The pregnancy game
someone who is very close with me is pregnant! woohoo~~ i am so happy for her!
her pregnancy makes me 'itchy' again! kekeke... ya, itch to get pregnant....
i super like to get pregnant. I love the feeling of carrying a life in my womb, feel its every movement... i love the waiting moments at the hospital to meet my newborn and i like confinement food. definitely, i love to cuddle my cutie oso! :)
many who know me call me 'pervert' cuz i tell them i love to go thru labor.. labor to me is 'easy pizzy lemon squeezy' (en teach me this... kekeke) .
during yongen's time, i was scheduled to do induce labour on 40th weeks 2nd days. However, on the 40th weeks 1st day 5am, my water bag broke. i still remember i was so happy and excited, i washed my hair and bathed, got to the coffeeshop to eat my kuay teow soup, then my hubby and i took a cab to the hospital. in the cab, my hubby was busy wiping the water that came from my water bag.. (oops, so sorry mr taxi driver for dirtying your cab...) when we reached the hospital, i was put on drip at about 9am. after about four hours of waiting, the doc arrived and got me ready for delivery. seriously, i felt no pain at all. Thus, i dun have any urge to push lor... i did feel backache thou... doc asked me to push... i did. but still it was not coming out... after some pushing, the hair of baby finally was seen... but then, there wasnt any improvement after that... therefore the doc decided to use vacum. first time, the vacum fell off... second time, the vacum worked. and i was told i had 3rd degree tear... due to big baby... sometimes near 2pm, yongen arrived! she weighed 3.915kg... think she was the biggest one in the nursery at that time. can u imagine i put on total of 23kg during the pregnancy? so heavy!
after 13 months, i conceived Yongqi. this fellow, like his sister, is a full term fellow... (gestation more than 38 weeks is considered full term baby le) due to dw's working schedule, we scheduled yongqi to be induced on the 39th week 5th day gestation. early in the morning that day, i woke up around same time as yongen's time, did the same ritual as yongen's time... then head to the hospital with dw. same thing, 9am put on the drip, around 1.30pm, the contraction came. this time i did feel the contraction... which is good cuz it gave me urge to push. true enough, 3 pushes, out came yongqi. swee swee... 3.975kg. 60g heavier than his sister. i onli put on 15kg for this pregnancy.
2008 sep, i conceived without knowing... but after 9 weeks, i was told that the foetus did not grow and its heartbeat had stopped at week 6. thus, i went thru a d&c to remove the tissue. it was a heartbreaking experience for me... if that pregnancy was successful, it would be our annivesary gift as our wedding anniversary falls on 28th june and its EDD was 26 June 09.
God is faithful. After the miscarriage, i prayed hard for another baby. dw, for the first time, desired for another baby too (during en and qi time, dw was happy but not so much of desire and anticipation ). in july 09, i conceived yongjie. my pregnancy with yongjie was a totally different experience. for the first two, i was a grumpy expecting mum... but for yongjie's case, i was bubbly and cheerful. i had joy in me.
yongjie is also a full term fellow. also due to dw's work schedule, we decided to induce yongjie on the 39th week 3rd day of gestation. same thing happened that morning except this time i admitted the hospital by myself. dw needed to teach that day. we planned it this way cuz at that time my doc said yongjie was still not low enough thus could not break the waterbag manually. they needed to insert a special capsule in me to made the baby come down and also kick off the dilation. and the capsule needed 6 hours to take effect. so the capsule was inserted at 7am. 1pm they put me on drip. by then dw had finished his teaching and arrived hospital. at about 4.20pm, tan yongjie arrived. weighing 4.015kg (kekeke). and guess what? though he is the heaviest, i only put on total pregnancy weight of 11kg this time... :)
for me, giving birth is like hen lays eggs... and i really enjoy it lor... however, not all people around me encourage me to get pregnant again... most importantly, my manufacturing partner, ie. my hubby, decided that we shall stop at 3....
its ok. i shall enjoy my 3 precious children, accompany them, participate in their childhood days, let me stay in their childhood memories... :)
her pregnancy makes me 'itchy' again! kekeke... ya, itch to get pregnant....
i super like to get pregnant. I love the feeling of carrying a life in my womb, feel its every movement... i love the waiting moments at the hospital to meet my newborn and i like confinement food. definitely, i love to cuddle my cutie oso! :)
many who know me call me 'pervert' cuz i tell them i love to go thru labor.. labor to me is 'easy pizzy lemon squeezy' (en teach me this... kekeke) .
during yongen's time, i was scheduled to do induce labour on 40th weeks 2nd days. However, on the 40th weeks 1st day 5am, my water bag broke. i still remember i was so happy and excited, i washed my hair and bathed, got to the coffeeshop to eat my kuay teow soup, then my hubby and i took a cab to the hospital. in the cab, my hubby was busy wiping the water that came from my water bag.. (oops, so sorry mr taxi driver for dirtying your cab...) when we reached the hospital, i was put on drip at about 9am. after about four hours of waiting, the doc arrived and got me ready for delivery. seriously, i felt no pain at all. Thus, i dun have any urge to push lor... i did feel backache thou... doc asked me to push... i did. but still it was not coming out... after some pushing, the hair of baby finally was seen... but then, there wasnt any improvement after that... therefore the doc decided to use vacum. first time, the vacum fell off... second time, the vacum worked. and i was told i had 3rd degree tear... due to big baby... sometimes near 2pm, yongen arrived! she weighed 3.915kg... think she was the biggest one in the nursery at that time. can u imagine i put on total of 23kg during the pregnancy? so heavy!
after 13 months, i conceived Yongqi. this fellow, like his sister, is a full term fellow... (gestation more than 38 weeks is considered full term baby le) due to dw's working schedule, we scheduled yongqi to be induced on the 39th week 5th day gestation. early in the morning that day, i woke up around same time as yongen's time, did the same ritual as yongen's time... then head to the hospital with dw. same thing, 9am put on the drip, around 1.30pm, the contraction came. this time i did feel the contraction... which is good cuz it gave me urge to push. true enough, 3 pushes, out came yongqi. swee swee... 3.975kg. 60g heavier than his sister. i onli put on 15kg for this pregnancy.
2008 sep, i conceived without knowing... but after 9 weeks, i was told that the foetus did not grow and its heartbeat had stopped at week 6. thus, i went thru a d&c to remove the tissue. it was a heartbreaking experience for me... if that pregnancy was successful, it would be our annivesary gift as our wedding anniversary falls on 28th june and its EDD was 26 June 09.
God is faithful. After the miscarriage, i prayed hard for another baby. dw, for the first time, desired for another baby too (during en and qi time, dw was happy but not so much of desire and anticipation ). in july 09, i conceived yongjie. my pregnancy with yongjie was a totally different experience. for the first two, i was a grumpy expecting mum... but for yongjie's case, i was bubbly and cheerful. i had joy in me.
yongjie is also a full term fellow. also due to dw's work schedule, we decided to induce yongjie on the 39th week 3rd day of gestation. same thing happened that morning except this time i admitted the hospital by myself. dw needed to teach that day. we planned it this way cuz at that time my doc said yongjie was still not low enough thus could not break the waterbag manually. they needed to insert a special capsule in me to made the baby come down and also kick off the dilation. and the capsule needed 6 hours to take effect. so the capsule was inserted at 7am. 1pm they put me on drip. by then dw had finished his teaching and arrived hospital. at about 4.20pm, tan yongjie arrived. weighing 4.015kg (kekeke). and guess what? though he is the heaviest, i only put on total pregnancy weight of 11kg this time... :)
for me, giving birth is like hen lays eggs... and i really enjoy it lor... however, not all people around me encourage me to get pregnant again... most importantly, my manufacturing partner, ie. my hubby, decided that we shall stop at 3....
its ok. i shall enjoy my 3 precious children, accompany them, participate in their childhood days, let me stay in their childhood memories... :)
Our children, our future... is our responsibility....
woohoo... i simply love to see my friends leave messages in my cbox... i feel motivated and encouraged to blog more...
my yongjie is 15 weeks old le... he is sooo cute especially with his new 'hair style'.
i feel that he looks like young yongqi... both botak with rounded face.. very adorable!!! below are yongjie and yongqi botak pics...
recently i have been surfing youtube to watch videos on fetus development, abortion and babies who are born with damages... i really feel that every single healthy child is God's miracle and grace... they are all precious and deserved to be loved and protected!
i feel so angry when i see videos on abortion. they labelled the video as 'silent scream'. expert said that the fetus can actually feel the pain when it is being forcefully sucked out of the mum's womb. one ultrasound even shows that the fetus' mouth was opened when the sucking tube was inserted to suck it out.. it is believed that the fetus was screaming in pain!
en came near me when i was watching 'silent scream'. she asked me what is the clip about so i explained to her. i said that some irresponsible women did not protect themselves, slept around with guys and got themselves pregnant. as they were not married, they decided to kill their own babies. then i went on lecturing her that one is only allowed to sleep with the guy whom one is married to. we should only sleep with that man after we got married to him. we should only get ourselves pregnant after we are married.
well, i guess that is the simple version of sex and moral education... i remember last time my mum used to lecture me in this area too. she used to warn me not to let any guy touch my body. she also taught me to protect my chest and body in crowded area... many of my friends ever told me that my this concept is already out dated... i should not be so 'lao gu dong'... as the younger generation nowadays are more opened and mature than my generation. the world around us has changed. the younger generation should change with the world and not stay at my time...
yes i do agree that the world has changed... but not all changes are 'to be better' changes! most changes are deteriorating! especially in the aspects of value, fillial piety, morale... the media has so much influence on the younger generation. if parents fail to explain to their children what have happened around us, the media will do.. and it will be according to the media's values... and what is the media's value? a very gd example is the advertisment of 'eclipse'. a pc of refreshing candy, then eclipse took place and the woman started kissing a stranger on his lip... RUBBISH! TRASH! i criticised this adv in front of my kids whenever we see it on tv...
of course there are also good advertisment like macdonald's '$4.50 lunch on weekend' whereby the army guy treated his family lunch at macdonald...but if without an adult's hi-lighting, i think teens only got the message of cheap EVM at macdonald also available on weekend lunch, who would notice the pleasing look on the daddy's face and got 'inspired' to buy parents a meal or two (although teens have not much money, like that army guy)?
what i am trying to say is that we as parents, should spend times to impart our values, morale and belief to our children. Never ever allow others, especially the media, to do that on our behalf!
Friday, July 2, 2010
Why chinese should not have Christrian name...
hmm... was spring cleaning my email inbox.. then come across this mail that was sent by one of my church 'pig fri dog end'... it is still so funny when i read it again...
Following is the content of the mail:
Confusing Chinese Names
Caller : Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan (anyone)?
Operator : Yes, you can speak to me.
Caller : No, I want to speak to Annie Wan (anyone)!
Operator : You are talking to someone! Who is this?
Caller : I'm Sam Wan (Someone). And I need to talk to Annie Wan (anyone)! It's urgent.
Operator : I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone! But what's this urgent matter about?
Caller : Well... just tell my sister Annie Wan (anyone) that our brother Noel Wan (no one)has involved in an accident. Noel Wan (no one)got injured and now Noel Wan (no one) is being sent to the hospital. Right now, Avery Wan (everyone) is on his way to the hospital.
Operator : Look if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgen t matter! You may find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!
Caller : You are so rude! Who are you?
Operator : I'm Saw Lee (Sorry).
Caller : Yes! You should be sorry. Now give me your name!!!
======================================================
This is hilarious ...
Why Chinese shouldn't have Christian names:
Anne Chang => Dirty (Mandarin)
Anne Chin => Keep Quiet (Mandarin)
Faye Chen => Dusty (Mandarin)
Carl Cheng => Buttock (Hokkien)
Monica Cheng => Touching your buttocks (Hokkien)
Lucy Leow => You are dead (Hokkien)
Jane Tan => Frying eggs (Mandarin)
Suzie Leow => Lose till death (Hokkien)
Henry Mah => Hate your mum (Mandarin)
Corrine Tai => Poor fellow (Hokkien)
Paul Chan => Bankrupt (Mandarin)
Nelson Tan => Bird laying eggs (Mandarin)
Leslie Tong => Rubbish Bin (Mandarin)
Carmen Teng => Leg hair long (Hokkien)
Connie Mah => Call your mother (Cantonese)
Danny See => Squeeze you to death (Hokkien)
Rosie Teng => Screws and nails (Hokkien)
Pete Tsai => Nose droppings (Hokkien)
Macy Koh => Never die before (Cantonese)
kekeke... guess thats why my boss does not like to name my kids any Christian names. kekeke...
Following is the content of the mail:
Confusing Chinese Names
Caller : Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan (anyone)?
Operator : Yes, you can speak to me.
Caller : No, I want to speak to Annie Wan (anyone)!
Operator : You are talking to someone! Who is this?
Caller : I'm Sam Wan (Someone). And I need to talk to Annie Wan (anyone)! It's urgent.
Operator : I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone! But what's this urgent matter about?
Caller : Well... just tell my sister Annie Wan (anyone) that our brother Noel Wan (no one)has involved in an accident. Noel Wan (no one)got injured and now Noel Wan (no one) is being sent to the hospital. Right now, Avery Wan (everyone) is on his way to the hospital.
Operator : Look if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgen t matter! You may find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!
Caller : You are so rude! Who are you?
Operator : I'm Saw Lee (Sorry).
Caller : Yes! You should be sorry. Now give me your name!!!
======================================================
This is hilarious ...
Why Chinese shouldn't have Christian names:
Anne Chang => Dirty (Mandarin)
Anne Chin => Keep Quiet (Mandarin)
Faye Chen => Dusty (Mandarin)
Carl Cheng => Buttock (Hokkien)
Monica Cheng => Touching your buttocks (Hokkien)
Lucy Leow => You are dead (Hokkien)
Jane Tan => Frying eggs (Mandarin)
Suzie Leow => Lose till death (Hokkien)
Henry Mah => Hate your mum (Mandarin)
Corrine Tai => Poor fellow (Hokkien)
Paul Chan => Bankrupt (Mandarin)
Nelson Tan => Bird laying eggs (Mandarin)
Leslie Tong => Rubbish Bin (Mandarin)
Carmen Teng => Leg hair long (Hokkien)
Connie Mah => Call your mother (Cantonese)
Danny See => Squeeze you to death (Hokkien)
Rosie Teng => Screws and nails (Hokkien)
Pete Tsai => Nose droppings (Hokkien)
Macy Koh => Never die before (Cantonese)
kekeke... guess thats why my boss does not like to name my kids any Christian names. kekeke...
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
MORNING WAR
A war took place at my home this morning.
As i lowered my hp volume last night, this morning its alarm was only loud enough for waking ants.. yes.. ANTS!! so soft lor... that i didnt hear it...
ya, i missed the wake up alarm! i am suppose to wake up at 7.08am (odd time huh? 2 min grace is for me to laze and stretch la...) but i did not... then yongjie started go 'kek kek kek' (its not the kekeke laugh that we use to kno... the kek kek kek is the sound he makes to tell me 'MILK TIME!') then i woke up! SHIT! it was already 7.25am lor!!! the school bus will be fetching the kids at 7.40am!!! i jumped up, calling loud to wake the kids... En was beside me (she sneaked into my bed after daddy went to work), so she could feel the urgency.. without delay, her engine started, which is GOOD!!!
next thing, i dashed into the kids room to wake yongqi... waking up yongqi normally is a simple task... juz play with him, tickle him... then his engine will be started.. but not today!! i was sooooo gan jiong... i pulled his leg and shook his body, calling out loudly to ask him to wake up...
at this time, the kek kek kek of yongjie had turned to waaaa waaa waa (cry liao lor).... so bor bian, i dashed back to my room, picked him up and ran back to qi... he still kun-ing lor!!! walau!!! i was soooo.... i threatened that i was getting the cane le... then he started to whine and dragged himself out of the bed... i thought he went to brush his teeth.. bor lor... he sat at the living room with his drooping eyes... i was soooo anxious... i shouted at him again and this time he shouted back '我不要刷牙！' wah... seriously, i was not in the mood for such nonsense... straight away i lifted the cane and PIA~~~ ane he started to yell!!!!!
finally he dragged himself to the toilet... still stood there and show me his angry face with both hand on waist lor!!! WAAAAAA~~~~~~~ i .... 忍～～～～～ (at this time yongjie alr buay tahan liao... he started to cry again as i was loud and he was hungry... so i latched him on... as for en, she alr at the kitchen munching her hotdog bun breakfast) then i threatened qi again "fine, dun brush your teeth... DUN BRUSH!!!! ( to deal with yongqi, you muz also sing 反调to poke him...)let the bus aunty and the children see how dirty you r... later i will juz pushed you out of the door when the sch bus come!" (this is the 老调that i always use on yongen... and it works for yongqi!!!) so with the 老调+反调, yongqi finally admit 输掉！kekeke.. i won!
then i asked en to put down her bun to change first... i was still latching yongjie this time.. so i couldnt really move alot... therefore i requested yongen to help dress yongqi. and she did.. nice job (though slow) done! thumb up for en! after then she dressed herself... i was feeling relieved that en was able to help me... but at this point, i suddenly heard a "BOM" sound! shit! i kno what it was... it was the bus aunty slamming the bus (actually a sch van) door.... meaning, the sch bus arrived and the aunty was coming up for them!!! (aunty is very kind. she knows that the kids will go down by themselves so when she does not see the kids when reaches our place, she will normally go to the staircase, or even to our door step to fetch them) thus once again i got tensed up le... i quickly unlatched jie (leave him to cry again), opened the door for aunty and got the kids to wear their shoes... aunty helped yongqi to wear socks and shoes... then she brought both them to the bus...
PHEW!!! war finally ended... but due to the shock, yongjie was unwilling to let go of me... thus i allowed him to suckle to sleep...
really hope that such thing will not happen again... though this morning was tough, i am very touched and pleased with yongen's help... no doubt she can be very irritating sometimes, she can be a good girl and helper too... and thanks to yongjie, who woke me up... my poor yongqi, until he left for school, i was still unable to hug him and sayang him... he was still in sleepy mode lor... haiz... later hug him more when he return....
I thank God for my precious cute children! :))
As i lowered my hp volume last night, this morning its alarm was only loud enough for waking ants.. yes.. ANTS!! so soft lor... that i didnt hear it...
ya, i missed the wake up alarm! i am suppose to wake up at 7.08am (odd time huh? 2 min grace is for me to laze and stretch la...) but i did not... then yongjie started go 'kek kek kek' (its not the kekeke laugh that we use to kno... the kek kek kek is the sound he makes to tell me 'MILK TIME!') then i woke up! SHIT! it was already 7.25am lor!!! the school bus will be fetching the kids at 7.40am!!! i jumped up, calling loud to wake the kids... En was beside me (she sneaked into my bed after daddy went to work), so she could feel the urgency.. without delay, her engine started, which is GOOD!!!
next thing, i dashed into the kids room to wake yongqi... waking up yongqi normally is a simple task... juz play with him, tickle him... then his engine will be started.. but not today!! i was sooooo gan jiong... i pulled his leg and shook his body, calling out loudly to ask him to wake up...
at this time, the kek kek kek of yongjie had turned to waaaa waaa waa (cry liao lor).... so bor bian, i dashed back to my room, picked him up and ran back to qi... he still kun-ing lor!!! walau!!! i was soooo.... i threatened that i was getting the cane le... then he started to whine and dragged himself out of the bed... i thought he went to brush his teeth.. bor lor... he sat at the living room with his drooping eyes... i was soooo anxious... i shouted at him again and this time he shouted back '我不要刷牙！' wah... seriously, i was not in the mood for such nonsense... straight away i lifted the cane and PIA~~~ ane he started to yell!!!!!
finally he dragged himself to the toilet... still stood there and show me his angry face with both hand on waist lor!!! WAAAAAA~~~~~~~ i .... 忍～～～～～ (at this time yongjie alr buay tahan liao... he started to cry again as i was loud and he was hungry... so i latched him on... as for en, she alr at the kitchen munching her hotdog bun breakfast) then i threatened qi again "fine, dun brush your teeth... DUN BRUSH!!!! ( to deal with yongqi, you muz also sing 反调to poke him...)let the bus aunty and the children see how dirty you r... later i will juz pushed you out of the door when the sch bus come!" (this is the 老调that i always use on yongen... and it works for yongqi!!!) so with the 老调+反调, yongqi finally admit 输掉！kekeke.. i won!
then i asked en to put down her bun to change first... i was still latching yongjie this time.. so i couldnt really move alot... therefore i requested yongen to help dress yongqi. and she did.. nice job (though slow) done! thumb up for en! after then she dressed herself... i was feeling relieved that en was able to help me... but at this point, i suddenly heard a "BOM" sound! shit! i kno what it was... it was the bus aunty slamming the bus (actually a sch van) door.... meaning, the sch bus arrived and the aunty was coming up for them!!! (aunty is very kind. she knows that the kids will go down by themselves so when she does not see the kids when reaches our place, she will normally go to the staircase, or even to our door step to fetch them) thus once again i got tensed up le... i quickly unlatched jie (leave him to cry again), opened the door for aunty and got the kids to wear their shoes... aunty helped yongqi to wear socks and shoes... then she brought both them to the bus...
PHEW!!! war finally ended... but due to the shock, yongjie was unwilling to let go of me... thus i allowed him to suckle to sleep...
really hope that such thing will not happen again... though this morning was tough, i am very touched and pleased with yongen's help... no doubt she can be very irritating sometimes, she can be a good girl and helper too... and thanks to yongjie, who woke me up... my poor yongqi, until he left for school, i was still unable to hug him and sayang him... he was still in sleepy mode lor... haiz... later hug him more when he return....
I thank God for my precious cute children! :))
Monday, June 21, 2010
妈妈的虚荣心
hey i change my blog skin... finally... and i like it... it gives me a coool feeeeeling in this hooooot weather period... yay...
am a proud and happy mummy reently... yongjie is sooooooooooo cute and BIG! oh he got a nice 外号， i call him kong bah... kekeke... cute name ya?
aaaahhhhaaa... u muz have noticed my style of talking has changed also... talk younger huh? ya... its june holiday and during this period i have been crazily talking with a young fellow... hey u kno who u r.. hey pumpkin... yes its u... see i mention u here... hey pumpkin...
while i am writing my blog... this pumpkin is bombarding me with sms (at my hubby's phone, cuz he is my hubby's student)... ok la pumpkin... "THANK YOU" for whatever reason u juz wan someone to say that to you... kekeke... lalala~~~
yongjie will be 3 months old in 3 days time... he is a real big guy... he is currently wearing L size diaper and 6 - 12 months clothings... anything that fit below 6 months dun fit him anymore... phew!!!! realli BIG huh?
his birth weight was 4.015kg. at one month old, he was 6.12kg and two months old, he was 8.16kg! i wonder how heavy he would be next week when he needs to go for his 3 months check up...
i always like to bring my children to routine checkup at polyclinic. cuz many people, especially those parents who are carrying similar sized babies, will look at my child. then they will tidak boleh tahan come ask me how old is my child. when i tell them the answer, i will focus on their face cuz their shocking face will give my great sense of satisfaction! not only that, they will then proceed to ask me what brand of formula do i feed my child... then i will proudly announced: full breastfeed! kekeke... this is 妈妈的虚荣心！
that day our whole family went to window shop. at a traffic juction, we met a pair of parents with a 10 months old baby in the pram. the daddy kept looking at yongjie in our pram. then he started asking how old is yongjie. i told him he is 2 half months. he was sooooo shocked! his eyes were popping out and mouth was wide opened! he turned to his wife and said with astonishment, "2 half months! look at his thigh, is so big! bigger than ours! ours is 10 months ley! theirs is 2 half months!!! wow!!!" the mum face was like not very 'song' like that (aiya, if me, i also no song... kekeke... u kno, its a hidden kind of competition among mummies... its there, but unsaid!!! kekeke... winner is soooo obvious everytime... kekeke) then the dad still buay tahan... he let go of his child and move over to our pram... he wanted to take a closer look at yongjie... as he looked he made a 'jio jio jio' kind of sound... the kind of sound one would make when either see something awsome or kena irritated... this case, its obvious 'awsome'! kekeke...
ok... let me make a guess... i think next week when i weigh yongjie, i wont be surprise he hit number around 10kg... ok, i think he is 9.5kg then... kekeke lets see if i am right... this is a humble quote from me though... kekeke... anyone want join in the game? kekeke...
am a proud and happy mummy reently... yongjie is sooooooooooo cute and BIG! oh he got a nice 外号， i call him kong bah... kekeke... cute name ya?
aaaahhhhaaa... u muz have noticed my style of talking has changed also... talk younger huh? ya... its june holiday and during this period i have been crazily talking with a young fellow... hey u kno who u r.. hey pumpkin... yes its u... see i mention u here... hey pumpkin...
while i am writing my blog... this pumpkin is bombarding me with sms (at my hubby's phone, cuz he is my hubby's student)... ok la pumpkin... "THANK YOU" for whatever reason u juz wan someone to say that to you... kekeke... lalala~~~
yongjie will be 3 months old in 3 days time... he is a real big guy... he is currently wearing L size diaper and 6 - 12 months clothings... anything that fit below 6 months dun fit him anymore... phew!!!! realli BIG huh?
his birth weight was 4.015kg. at one month old, he was 6.12kg and two months old, he was 8.16kg! i wonder how heavy he would be next week when he needs to go for his 3 months check up...
i always like to bring my children to routine checkup at polyclinic. cuz many people, especially those parents who are carrying similar sized babies, will look at my child. then they will tidak boleh tahan come ask me how old is my child. when i tell them the answer, i will focus on their face cuz their shocking face will give my great sense of satisfaction! not only that, they will then proceed to ask me what brand of formula do i feed my child... then i will proudly announced: full breastfeed! kekeke... this is 妈妈的虚荣心！
that day our whole family went to window shop. at a traffic juction, we met a pair of parents with a 10 months old baby in the pram. the daddy kept looking at yongjie in our pram. then he started asking how old is yongjie. i told him he is 2 half months. he was sooooo shocked! his eyes were popping out and mouth was wide opened! he turned to his wife and said with astonishment, "2 half months! look at his thigh, is so big! bigger than ours! ours is 10 months ley! theirs is 2 half months!!! wow!!!" the mum face was like not very 'song' like that (aiya, if me, i also no song... kekeke... u kno, its a hidden kind of competition among mummies... its there, but unsaid!!! kekeke... winner is soooo obvious everytime... kekeke) then the dad still buay tahan... he let go of his child and move over to our pram... he wanted to take a closer look at yongjie... as he looked he made a 'jio jio jio' kind of sound... the kind of sound one would make when either see something awsome or kena irritated... this case, its obvious 'awsome'! kekeke...
ok... let me make a guess... i think next week when i weigh yongjie, i wont be surprise he hit number around 10kg... ok, i think he is 9.5kg then... kekeke lets see if i am right... this is a humble quote from me though... kekeke... anyone want join in the game? kekeke...
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