The pregnancy game

someone who is very close with me is pregnant! woohoo~~ i am so happy for her!

her pregnancy makes me 'itchy' again! kekeke... ya, itch to get pregnant....

i super like to get pregnant. I love the feeling of carrying a life in my womb, feel its every movement... i love the waiting moments at the hospital to meet my newborn and i like confinement food. definitely, i love to cuddle my cutie oso! :)

many who know me call me 'pervert' cuz i tell them i love to go thru labor.. labor to me is 'easy pizzy lemon squeezy' (en teach me this... kekeke) .

during yongen's time, i was scheduled to do induce labour on 40th weeks 2nd days. However, on the 40th weeks 1st day 5am, my water bag broke. i still remember i was so happy and excited, i washed my hair and bathed, got to the coffeeshop to eat my kuay teow soup, then my hubby and i took a cab to the hospital. in the cab, my hubby was busy wiping the water that came from my water bag.. (oops, so sorry mr taxi driver for dirtying your cab...) when we reached the hospital, i was put on drip at about 9am. after about four hours of waiting, the doc arrived and got me ready for delivery. seriously, i felt no pain at all. Thus, i dun have any urge to push lor... i did feel backache thou... doc asked me to push... i did. but still it was not coming out... after some pushing, the hair of baby finally was seen... but then, there wasnt any improvement after that... therefore the doc decided to use vacum. first time, the vacum fell off... second time, the vacum worked. and i was told i had 3rd degree tear... due to big baby... sometimes near 2pm, yongen arrived! she weighed 3.915kg... think she was the biggest one in the nursery at that time. can u imagine i put on total of 23kg during the pregnancy? so heavy!

after 13 months, i conceived Yongqi. this fellow, like his sister, is a full term fellow... (gestation more than 38 weeks is considered full term baby le) due to dw's working schedule, we scheduled yongqi to be induced on the 39th week 5th day gestation. early in the morning that day, i woke up around same time as yongen's time, did the same ritual as yongen's time... then head to the hospital with dw. same thing, 9am put on the drip, around 1.30pm, the contraction came. this time i did feel the contraction... which is good cuz it gave me urge to push. true enough, 3 pushes, out came yongqi. swee swee... 3.975kg. 60g heavier than his sister. i onli put on 15kg for this pregnancy.

2008 sep, i conceived without knowing... but after 9 weeks, i was told that the foetus did not grow and its heartbeat had stopped at week 6. thus, i went thru a d&c to remove the tissue. it was a heartbreaking experience for me... if that pregnancy was successful, it would be our annivesary gift as our wedding anniversary falls on 28th june and its EDD was 26 June 09.

God is faithful. After the miscarriage, i prayed hard for another baby. dw, for the first time, desired for another baby too (during en and qi time, dw was happy but not so much of desire and anticipation ). in july 09, i conceived yongjie. my pregnancy with yongjie was a totally different experience. for the first two, i was a grumpy expecting mum... but for yongjie's case, i was bubbly and cheerful. i had joy in me.

yongjie is also a full term fellow. also due to dw's work schedule, we decided to induce yongjie on the 39th week 3rd day of gestation. same thing happened that morning except this time i admitted the hospital by myself. dw needed to teach that day. we planned it this way cuz at that time my doc said yongjie was still not low enough thus could not break the waterbag manually. they needed to insert a special capsule in me to made the baby come down and also kick off the dilation. and the capsule needed 6 hours to take effect. so the capsule was inserted at 7am. 1pm they put me on drip. by then dw had finished his teaching and arrived hospital. at about 4.20pm, tan yongjie arrived. weighing 4.015kg (kekeke). and guess what? though he is the heaviest, i only put on total pregnancy weight of 11kg this time... :)

for me, giving birth is like hen lays eggs... and i really enjoy it lor... however, not all people around me encourage me to get pregnant again... most importantly, my manufacturing partner, ie. my hubby, decided that we shall stop at 3....

its ok. i shall enjoy my 3 precious children, accompany them, participate in their childhood days, let me stay in their childhood memories... :)

Our children, our future... is our responsibility....

woohoo... i simply love to see my friends leave messages in my cbox... i feel motivated and encouraged to blog more...

my yongjie is 15 weeks old le... he is sooo cute especially with his new 'hair style'.

i feel that he looks like young yongqi... both botak with rounded face.. very adorable!!! below are yongjie and yongqi botak pics...

recently i have been surfing youtube to watch videos on fetus development, abortion and babies who are born with damages... i really feel that every single healthy child is God's miracle and grace... they are all precious and deserved to be loved and protected!

i feel so angry when i see videos on abortion. they labelled the video as 'silent scream'. expert said that the fetus can actually feel the pain when it is being forcefully sucked out of the mum's womb. one ultrasound even shows that the fetus' mouth was opened when the sucking tube was inserted to suck it out.. it is believed that the fetus was screaming in pain!

en came near me when i was watching 'silent scream'. she asked me what is the clip about so i explained to her. i said that some irresponsible women did not protect themselves, slept around with guys and got themselves pregnant. as they were not married, they decided to kill their own babies. then i went on lecturing her that one is only allowed to sleep with the guy whom one is married to. we should only sleep with that man after we got married to him. we should only get ourselves pregnant after we are married.

well, i guess that is the simple version of sex and moral education... i remember last time my mum used to lecture me in this area too. she used to warn me not to let any guy touch my body. she also taught me to protect my chest and body in crowded area... many of my friends ever told me that my this concept is already out dated... i should not be so 'lao gu dong'... as the younger generation nowadays are more opened and mature than my generation. the world around us has changed. the younger generation should change with the world and not stay at my time...

yes i do agree that the world has changed... but not all changes are 'to be better' changes! most changes are deteriorating! especially in the aspects of value, fillial piety, morale... the media has so much influence on the younger generation. if parents fail to explain to their children what have happened around us, the media will do.. and it will be according to the media's values... and what is the media's value? a very gd example is the advertisment of 'eclipse'. a pc of refreshing candy, then eclipse took place and the woman started kissing a stranger on his lip... RUBBISH! TRASH! i criticised this adv in front of my kids whenever we see it on tv...

of course there are also good advertisment like macdonald's '$4.50 lunch on weekend' whereby the army guy treated his family lunch at macdonald...but if without an adult's hi-lighting, i think teens only got the message of cheap EVM at macdonald also available on weekend lunch, who would notice the pleasing look on the daddy's face and got 'inspired' to buy parents a meal or two (although teens have not much money, like that army guy)?

what i am trying to say is that we as parents, should spend times to impart our values, morale and belief to our children. Never ever allow others, especially the media, to do that on our behalf!

Why chinese should not have Christrian name...

hmm... was spring cleaning my email inbox.. then come across this mail that was sent by one of my church 'pig fri dog end'... it is still so funny when i read it again...
Following is the content of the mail:

Confusing Chinese Names

Caller : Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan (anyone)?


Operator : Yes, you can speak to me.


Caller : No, I want to speak to Annie Wan (anyone)!


Operator : You are talking to someone! Who is this?


Caller : I'm Sam Wan (Someone). And I need to talk to Annie Wan (anyone)! It's urgent.


Operator : I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone! But what's this urgent matter about?


Caller : Well... just tell my sister Annie Wan (anyone) that our brother Noel Wan (no one)has involved in an accident. Noel Wan (no one)got injured and now Noel Wan (no one) is being sent to the hospital. Right now, Avery Wan (everyone) is on his way to the hospital.


Operator : Look if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgen t matter! You may find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!


Caller : You are so rude! Who are you?


Operator : I'm Saw Lee (Sorry).


Caller : Yes! You should be sorry. Now give me your name!!!
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This is hilarious ...

Why Chinese shouldn't have Christian names:

Anne Chang => Dirty (Mandarin)
Anne Chin => Keep Quiet (Mandarin)
Faye Chen => Dusty (Mandarin)
Carl Cheng => Buttock (Hokkien)
Monica Cheng => Touching your buttocks (Hokkien)
Lucy Leow => You are dead (Hokkien)
Jane Tan => Frying eggs (Mandarin)
Suzie Leow => Lose till death (Hokkien)
Henry Mah => Hate your mum (Mandarin)
Corrine Tai => Poor fellow (Hokkien)
Paul Chan => Bankrupt (Mandarin)
Nelson Tan => Bird laying eggs (Mandarin)
Leslie Tong => Rubbish Bin (Mandarin)
Carmen Teng => Leg hair long (Hokkien)
Connie Mah => Call your mother (Cantonese)
Danny See => Squeeze you to death (Hokkien)
Rosie Teng => Screws and nails (Hokkien)
Pete Tsai => Nose droppings (Hokkien)
Macy Koh => Never die before (Cantonese)

kekeke... guess thats why my boss does not like to name my kids any Christian names. kekeke...

MORNING WAR

A war took place at my home this morning.

As i lowered my hp volume last night, this morning its alarm was only loud enough for waking ants.. yes.. ANTS!! so soft lor... that i didnt hear it...

ya, i missed the wake up alarm! i am suppose to wake up at 7.08am (odd time huh? 2 min grace is for me to laze and stretch la...) but i did not... then yongjie started go 'kek kek kek' (its not the kekeke laugh that we use to kno... the kek kek kek is the sound he makes to tell me 'MILK TIME!') then i woke up! SHIT! it was already 7.25am lor!!! the school bus will be fetching the kids at 7.40am!!! i jumped up, calling loud to wake the kids... En was beside me (she sneaked into my bed after daddy went to work), so she could feel the urgency.. without delay, her engine started, which is GOOD!!!

next thing, i dashed into the kids room to wake yongqi... waking up yongqi normally is a simple task... juz play with him, tickle him... then his engine will be started.. but not today!! i was sooooo gan jiong... i pulled his leg and shook his body, calling out loudly to ask him to wake up...

at this time, the kek kek kek of yongjie had turned to waaaa waaa waa (cry liao lor).... so bor bian, i dashed back to my room, picked him up and ran back to qi... he still kun-ing lor!!! walau!!! i was soooo.... i threatened that i was getting the cane le... then he started to whine and dragged himself out of the bed... i thought he went to brush his teeth.. bor lor... he sat at the living room with his drooping eyes... i was soooo anxious... i shouted at him again and this time he shouted back '我不要刷牙！' wah... seriously, i was not in the mood for such nonsense... straight away i lifted the cane and PIA~~~ ane he started to yell!!!!!

finally he dragged himself to the toilet... still stood there and show me his angry face with both hand on waist lor!!! WAAAAAA~~~~~~~ i .... 忍～～～～～ (at this time yongjie alr buay tahan liao... he started to cry again as i was loud and he was hungry... so i latched him on... as for en, she alr at the kitchen munching her hotdog bun breakfast) then i threatened qi again "fine, dun brush your teeth... DUN BRUSH!!!! ( to deal with yongqi, you muz also sing 反调to poke him...)let the bus aunty and the children see how dirty you r... later i will juz pushed you out of the door when the sch bus come!" (this is the 老调that i always use on yongen... and it works for yongqi!!!) so with the 老调+反调, yongqi finally admit 输掉！kekeke.. i won!

then i asked en to put down her bun to change first... i was still latching yongjie this time.. so i couldnt really move alot... therefore i requested yongen to help dress yongqi. and she did.. nice job (though slow) done! thumb up for en! after then she dressed herself... i was feeling relieved that en was able to help me... but at this point, i suddenly heard a "BOM" sound! shit! i kno what it was... it was the bus aunty slamming the bus (actually a sch van) door.... meaning, the sch bus arrived and the aunty was coming up for them!!! (aunty is very kind. she knows that the kids will go down by themselves so when she does not see the kids when reaches our place, she will normally go to the staircase, or even to our door step to fetch them) thus once again i got tensed up le... i quickly unlatched jie (leave him to cry again), opened the door for aunty and got the kids to wear their shoes... aunty helped yongqi to wear socks and shoes... then she brought both them to the bus...

PHEW!!! war finally ended... but due to the shock, yongjie was unwilling to let go of me... thus i allowed him to suckle to sleep...

really hope that such thing will not happen again... though this morning was tough, i am very touched and pleased with yongen's help... no doubt she can be very irritating sometimes, she can be a good girl and helper too... and thanks to yongjie, who woke me up... my poor yongqi, until he left for school, i was still unable to hug him and sayang him... he was still in sleepy mode lor... haiz... later hug him more when he return....

I thank God for my precious cute children! :))

妈妈的虚荣心

hey i change my blog skin... finally... and i like it... it gives me a coool feeeeeling in this hooooot weather period... yay...

am a proud and happy mummy reently... yongjie is sooooooooooo cute and BIG! oh he got a nice 外号， i call him kong bah... kekeke... cute name ya?

aaaahhhhaaa... u muz have noticed my style of talking has changed also... talk younger huh? ya... its june holiday and during this period i have been crazily talking with a young fellow... hey u kno who u r.. hey pumpkin... yes its u... see i mention u here... hey pumpkin...

while i am writing my blog... this pumpkin is bombarding me with sms (at my hubby's phone, cuz he is my hubby's student)... ok la pumpkin... "THANK YOU" for whatever reason u juz wan someone to say that to you... kekeke... lalala~~~

yongjie will be 3 months old in 3 days time... he is a real big guy... he is currently wearing L size diaper and 6 - 12 months clothings... anything that fit below 6 months dun fit him anymore... phew!!!! realli BIG huh?



his birth weight was 4.015kg. at one month old, he was 6.12kg and two months old, he was 8.16kg! i wonder how heavy he would be next week when he needs to go for his 3 months check up...

i always like to bring my children to routine checkup at polyclinic. cuz many people, especially those parents who are carrying similar sized babies, will look at my child. then they will tidak boleh tahan come ask me how old is my child. when i tell them the answer, i will focus on their face cuz their shocking face will give my great sense of satisfaction! not only that, they will then proceed to ask me what brand of formula do i feed my child... then i will proudly announced: full breastfeed! kekeke... this is 妈妈的虚荣心！

that day our whole family went to window shop. at a traffic juction, we met a pair of parents with a 10 months old baby in the pram. the daddy kept looking at yongjie in our pram. then he started asking how old is yongjie. i told him he is 2 half months. he was sooooo shocked! his eyes were popping out and mouth was wide opened! he turned to his wife and said with astonishment, "2 half months! look at his thigh, is so big! bigger than ours! ours is 10 months ley! theirs is 2 half months!!! wow!!!" the mum face was like not very 'song' like that (aiya, if me, i also no song... kekeke... u kno, its a hidden kind of competition among mummies... its there, but unsaid!!! kekeke... winner is soooo obvious everytime... kekeke) then the dad still buay tahan... he let go of his child and move over to our pram... he wanted to take a closer look at yongjie... as he looked he made a 'jio jio jio' kind of sound... the kind of sound one would make when either see something awsome or kena irritated... this case, its obvious 'awsome'! kekeke...

ok... let me make a guess... i think next week when i weigh yongjie, i wont be surprise he hit number around 10kg... ok, i think he is 9.5kg then... kekeke lets see if i am right... this is a humble quote from me though... kekeke... anyone want join in the game? kekeke...

meet the parent session

today the kindergarten conducted a meet the parent session... dw went with us!!!

it was the first time dw visited their school since the kids are officially students of the kindergarten. the first and only time was when we registered for en...

the children and i were very happy to have their daddy with us to the school... really... its sooo difficult to have such opportunity...

yongen's teacher commented that en tends to be a dreamer in class! she tends to do her work very slowly...i am quite shocked to hear that cuz she has been fast worker at home! she also need to correct her writing posture as she always rest her head on the table when she does her work..

as expected, yongqi is one of the favourit boi to his teachers... his form techer commented that he would do something funny in the middle of lesson time in class to make everybody laugh. ha! in another word, clown of the class!!!! hahaha....

the chinese teacher commented that the children are very close to each other... the teacher feels that its so pleasing to see them love each other and their new brother as they keep talking abt yongjie at school. once yongqi punched yongen, the teachers lectured qi that he should not do that but guess what en said... she said,"its ok. though he hit me, i still love him cuz he is my brother!" the teacher said that all teachers were so touched to hear that! based on the progress book and the feedback from the teachers, i guess overall, yongen attain a grade of B+ (or A-) while yongqi has attained a C! that guy! still blur blur yet can give ppl a shock once in a while when he displays his unexpected capabilities...

i feel that its important to meet the teachers although the kids are still so young cuz by doing that, we get to kno how our kids r doing in sch and we also converse to the kids that 'hey, mummy is uodated with what u have done in sch.....

妈妈的心

勇杰今天满八周！好快！

我喜欢看着勇杰睡觉的样子。好可爱！虽然晚上时段让他搞得晕头转向，甚至有不好的埋怨词句，但是，一看见熟睡时的他，就忍不住要亲吻他的小脸蛋。他真的好可爱！

在看着他熟睡的样子时，我想我应该常常提醒自己，怀里所抱的宝贝，是上帝赐我的恩典啊！真的。每一个孩子顺利的出世，且是平安，且是健康正常的，都是神的恩典！我相信每一个做妈妈的，都知道我在说什么。。。

在怀勇杰的时候，我很担心。因前一次不好的经历，我实在害怕恶梦会重演。当我怀勇杰（其实在怀咏恩和勇齐时也是如此）进入第二孕期时，我又担心孩子是否会正常、健康。。。这样的担心，所有的担心，总是有增无减地折磨我直到我和肚子里的孩子见面为止！

每一次的祷告，我都会不忘为孩子的健康与智慧祷告。每一次提及我的梦想、愿望，我都是希望我的孩子们健康、有智慧且永远蒙住喜悦、保守，永远走在主的道路上。。。

看见许多时下青少年在自己的身上打孔、刺青，在健康上不自我珍惜，与他人殴打、吸烟、嗑毒，我就为他们的父母心痛。我回想我的咏恩和勇齐（尤其咏恩）在出世不久，因黄旦需入院作灯疗时，我不放心，牺牲自己做月应该多休息的需要，到医院陪伴孩子的日子。尤其记得因为当时是第一胎，而且咏恩的黄旦指数非常高，所以自己常常在医院偷偷地哭泣。。

更糟的是，咏恩在两周大时，医生发现她的一条心血管没有完全关闭，所以严格上来说，咏恩是需要长期做心脏检查，直到她动手术将这问题解决为止。这事让我非常心痛和内疚。虽然医生说这事与我无关，但我还是怪自己。。。真的，即使是用自己的生命或健康对换孩子的康复，我什么都愿意。。

妈妈的心就是如此。其实，爸爸的心也是一样疼惜子女，只是他们比较理智（女人比较感性），而且他们都不善于表达爱意，所以常常让孩子们觉得爸爸没有妈妈那样慈爱。或许，有时是爸爸（有些'严肃'的妈妈也是如此）还在学习当中。。怎么说呢？父母职责也是需要学习的呀！只是因为妈妈十月怀胎，所以比爸爸更先一步接触了宝宝，学习了为人母的特性。。。

主啊，求你保守所有的孩子们与父母们，让他们之间有美好的关系，晓得如何沟通。主啊，尤其是当他们步入叛逆期时，求你加倍地保守他们，救他们脱离凶恶，不叫他们遇见试探。谢谢主，奉耶稣的名祷，啊们！